I don't care how tough of a parent you want to be, when your kid(s) look at you with those hurting eyes, your heart is breaking. No matter why the hurt is there... As a parent, you want to take every ounce of pain, disappointment, sadness and any other negative emotion they have to face. You want to face that emotion for them. You want to shield them from it. You want to prevent it at any cost. And when you are not able to do that, and you have to see that hurt in your child's eyes.... DEFEAT!
I don't know about you, but seeing my kid(s) hurt, for any reason, eats a hole in my heart and soul. Even when it's because I'm disciplining them. Just because you have to do it, doesn't mean it doesn't hurt you. Growing up my mom would say, "This is going to hurt me more than it's gonna hurt you." As a kid I thought, "Well then why would you do it?" or "Yeah Right!"
Mom, I understand now.
One thing I can say, communication will help to sort through this. No matter what the situation is. And sometimes just the specific words you utilize can make all the difference in the world.
Check out these great lists of substitute words to help with your hard conversations with your kid(s):55 Positive Things To Say To Your Child
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